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  For a long time my observations of various people in my daily quests have led me to feel that the world in general is heading in a bad direction. I'm not saying that we're entirely doomed but we should be much more aware of the direction our actions (or lack of) are steering other people in our lives.

 I have watched kids in many areas run amuck getting into trouble, damaging property etc etc. I wonder to myself "where's these kids parents?"  "do they even know what these kids are doing or where they're even at?" It seems to me that for one reason or another in general, many parents have their own issues and have a do not care attitude. That the world owes them a life because it somehow has failed them. So often when we have for example an encounter with an unruly child or young adult we put the blame on them for not doing what is right. I feel that most cases the blame lies on the parent(s).

 There are way too many people out there having children, when they really haven't the means to raise them in a proper environment. Thus leading them to possibly be a burden on society via our social services, health care programs, and court system. Please note; I do not think these systems are a bad thing but have fallen to way too much abuse, thus causing the burden on the system and ruining it for those who truely have the need.

 For example, when we have  a car. We have to prove financial responsibility (having insurance) before legally driving it. We also have to prove mental and physical responsibility (written & road testing) before we can legally drive it. Now you wonder what has this to do with kids? Well i ask you. What qualification does a person have to prove before they have a child? Answer is very little!!!! Just the basic human nature to reproduce.

 Unfortunately we do not live in the garden of Eden anymore where all is provided to us from a divine being whomever it may be. I feel that there is a need to somehow incorporate something to hold people accountable for having children. I do not feel that it is anyone else's responsibility to pay for my children's well being, nor do i wish to pay for anyone else's unless it's by my own choosing. I think there needs to be accountability here before a person can have kids. One certainly has to prove that to adopt, correct?

 I feel that to properly raise a child one must be a teacher so to speak. Think of the child as you would a new computer. When it's plugged in for the first time there's existence but it does nothing until it receives some input from its creator / operator. It has no capabilities nor any memories until we put them there. As the computer is interacted with more and more it accomplishes more tasks and retains more memories (data).

 A child is very similar to a computer in that way. From the day they're born they know nothing but existence. as time progresses they see and learn, depending on their environment and interaction with others. If the creator (parent(s) teach them well and often, good things result. If the creator dwells in an unstable environment without good values and teaching, you get bad results. Folks, this is not rocket science but the very basic facts of life in general. We have too many people out there breeding in a bad environment. Thus creating the process of "garbage in - garbage out" I'm tired of seeing tax dollars wasted on garbage, we need to hold people accountable for the burdens they place on society. If and when we do, then we can have children grow up to be an asset to society instead of a burden.

 The following are other blogs i've found where people see it the same as I do. Thanks for your interest in the matter.

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Update

Well I broke down and made a few more animations, and added them to my animations album.

Like it really matters, right??  Since nobody visits this blog.

I make friends in my Taekwondo class, and oh they swear up and down they are such good friends, well were are they now, where were they when I really needed them after the surgery.

I try to make a few acquaintances online, to chat with, I never see them nor hear from them.

Here I am sitting and a wondering, what have I done wrong? The answer is nothing, I have not done anything wrong. I guess my life is just not as exciting and vigorous, and riskae, as everyone else's.

 

Here you are probably thinking plain ole boring Jane. Na!!!!! not me, I am anything but boring, I love and smile, I dance around, I play with my kids, I  even, throw in making up and singing silly songs to them or about them, I throw in butt head, when they beat my butt so badly when it comes to video games. I sit back with a queer look on my face as they are bouncing off the walls, with me eyeballs bugging out and bouncing along with their movements, the kids see me, and the blurt out in laughter WHAT MOM!!!!!!?????? I'm like , OK!!!!!!?????? What planet are you from? I let the kids dog pile me on the floor, and within all the struggling and laughing, they end up (not literally) tied in knots, screaming Oh, no!!!!!!! Oh, NO!!!!!! It's devils snare, help daddy, help daddy we is stuck, LOL!!!!!!!!!! I have a ball point pen, that looks like a finger, I sneak up behind the kids, and I pull that finger, UMMMMMM!!!!!!!!! What did you do????? I think you need to go potty!!!!!!!! They start laughing......

 

Why am I telling you this? There are way to many children out there who get neglected, by their parents, it seems to me that the parents, are not paying enough attention to their children, not showing their children that they love them, not teaching their children right from wrong, not teaching their children responsibilities.

So in turn those children have to go out and try to learn on their own, and  quite a few of them learn the wrong way.

 

It is my strong belief that if you listen to your children, talk to your children, be a part of your children's life, they will have a much better future. Children are not our properties, we don't own them. Children are a gift from god, and it is our responsibility, to raise them, since god is not here to do it himself. It should be the other way around if children are our property( which they are not), we adults are the children's property. For example, why do we work? So we can provide a home for our families, which 9 out of 10 times consists of children? Why is it so important, to make sure, that we have an ample amount of food in the house, why do we need to pay the electricity, and the utilities?

 

Golly! now that I am grown up and I do not live with my parents, and I realize that one of these days I might loose my parents, what then? I will be lost, they are my parents, I cannot imagine being in this world without MY parents. Notice how I put the emphasis on MY????   They gave me life, they gave me morals, and values, they gave me knowledge, they set my feet upon this world, and in  a sense, they gave me the world, and the environment,and the culture I live in. They are mine, and they can't leave me. Like in the movie Edward Scissor Hands, where does it leave the creation, when the creator is gone? I am not done, I am not finished, don't leave me.  You still have a wealth of knowledge to share with me, you have grandchildren to watch grow up. How dare you leave me, you never left me as a child, why leave me now, am I not  still your baby???

I dread having to go through that. Someone I know went through that, and it seems she is still scarred.

Now you can see my point, my idea and theory, about adults being children's possessions.

 

Here is another thing I believe, you hear a lot of people talking about the after life, my thought on that is, your after life is here and now if you have children, that is why we must love our children, teach our children share experiences with your children, every admirable quality about yourself is within your children, and if everything goes right, those qualities will be in your grandchildren and you great grandchildren, but those little things about yourself that you just don't like or there something that you wish you could go back and change, your chance is right in front of your face, within you children, make sure they don't make the same dumb mistakes that you did. Not by yelling at them and ordering them around.  Try sitting down with them and say, you know I did something similar when I was a kid, and I got in a load of trouble, how did that make me feel? I was scared senseless, and I just don't want to see you have to experience the same thing. You should never shelter your children either, always have a firm hand guiding them, not babying them. Like if they get in trouble for shop lifting, let them pay the consequences, make them pay for it, and then talk to them.

12/17/2007 update
I recieved this e-mail about Bill Cosby making a statement about his race. He has a valid point but I still feel this issue is one with all races. Maybe not equally but still it is not particular to any one race of people.

true story, there's more here---> http://www.snopes.com/politics/soapbox/cosby.asp

 

"They're standing on the corner and they can't speak English!? 
I can't even talk the way these people talk:

Why you ain't,
Where you is,
What he drive,
Where he stay,
Where he work,
Who you be...

And I blamed the kid, until I heard the mother talk.  Then I heard the father talk.

Everybody knows it's important to speak English except these knuckleheads.  You can't be a doctor with that kind of crap coming out of your mouth.

In fact, you will never get any kind of job making a decent living.  People marched and were hit in the face with rocks to get an education, and now we've got these knuckleheads walking around.

The lower economic people are not holding up their end in this deal.

These people are not parenting.  They are buying things for kids:
$500 sneakers for what?! 
...And they won't spend $200 for 'Hooked on Phonics'.

I am talking about these people who cry when their son is standing there in an orange suit.

Where were you when he was two?

Where were you when he was 12 ?

Where were you when he was 18,
and how come you didn't know that he had a pistol?!

And where is the father?  Or who is his father?

People putting their clothes on backward: 
isn't that a sign of something gone wrong?

People with their hats on backward, pants down around the crack:  isn't that a sign of something, or are you waiting for Jesus to pull his pants up?

Isn't it a sign of something when she has her dress all the way up and has got all types of needles [piercing] going through her body?

What part of Africa did this come from?  We are not Africans.  Those people are not Africans.  They don't know a thing about Africa.  With names like Shaniqua, Taliqua and Mohammed and all of that crap, and all of them are in jail?

Brown or black versus the Board of Education is no longer the white person's problem.  We have got to take the neighborhood back!

People used to be ashamed.  Today a woman has eight children with eight different 'husbands', or men, or whatever you call them now.

We have millionaire football players who cannot read.  We have million-dollar basketball players who can't write two paragraphs.

We, as black folks, have to do a better job.  Someone working at Wal-Mart with seven kids, you are hurting us.

We have to start holding each other to a higher standard.

We cannot blame the white people any longer." 

William Henry "Bill" Cosby, Jr., Ed.D.